Top 10 Single Mom Dating Tips

[Ms. Single Mama]

I’ve been out and about in the single mom dating world for nearly two years now. I’ve had ups, downs and the spins! Here are a few tips I feel compelled to pass on.

And make sure you check out Single Mom Dating Tips, Part 2.

1. Date him - ONLY - if you are truly happier. Remember you and your child/ren can be completely content and happy without a man in your life. If a man wants in - he has to earn it.

2. Watch for red flags: lack of goals, laziness, fakeness, cockiness, selfishness or the inability to make you laugh. Everyone has their own set of red flags. Listen to yours.

3. Learn to differentiate between red flags and that nice little “push him away” reflex you’ve developed now that you have a child. Don’t make a big deal out of nothing.

4. Don’t freak him out. Give him his own space to figure out your reality. Make sure he knows you understand this is a lot for him to take in. If he says, “Oh, it’s no big deal, a baby can’t be that bad.” Just count to ten and smile. Let the little things go, the big things will follow in their own time.

5. They will not instantly understand your life or be able to empathize with your situation. That would be impossible. Be rational about it and watch for signs of him trying to understand. Is he really watching? Is he really listening?

6. If he’s not calling you frequently or not making future dates - ditch him immediately. You don’t have time for rif raf.

7. Men are the same. We have just changed. Sometimes this one hits me like a slap in the face. They’re still completely able to fall madly in love with you, commit to you or they’re able to hurt you without even knowing it.

8. It will get easier. I’ve been a single dating mom for 15 months. Each round gets easier. Each one gets better. As long as you’re making improvements on choosing men, that’s progress! And it will get easier to quickly spot the frogs from the princes.

9. You have changed, but love is still the same. Don’t try to re-define it or lower your expectation just because “you have kids.” The man you want in your life is going to love your kids just as much as you do.

10. Keep yourself out there. Don’t try once or twice and give up. You are shopping. Don’t tell me you would never go shoe shopping again if you bought a few uncomfortable pairs. Dating as a single mother won’t be easy, don’t look back on your mistakes and enjoy your freedom.

Good luck single mamas! This stuff isn’t easy.

Want more? Check out Single Mom Dating Tips, Part 2.

[Steve]

Wow theres a lot there. By the way this goes both ways. Thanks for shareing.