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I guess we all have our deal-breakers--you know, the qualities or habits that make someone undateable by our personal standards. (For me those include any indication that he may be abusive, an addict, a narcissist, and/or an infidel. Clearly I just want to weed out THE NAST this time around. Beyond that, your issues are small potatoes and I'm pretty sure I can deal.)

Catching up on my reader tonight (Whoahwhoahheyhey. You've been posting like crazy, kids!), I came upon… Continue

I'm Catholic. Hmm...I was raised Catholic. I guess I'm a lapsed Catholic...?

Do you know what "lapsed" means? "Having fallen into sin."

Yeah...that's my problem.

I know my religion. (C'mon. I was raised by my Polish Grandma.) I did not miss mass. I was active in my faith. I went to parochial schools. At one point I was a catechist, a lector, a youth group leader and a Eucharistic minister. I agonized over the lack of involvement of young people in the Church. The Church was home to me.… Continue

I feel like I'm on the brink of something here. Something that could be amazing if I let it. But it could also be devastating, and I don't know if I can I handle that.

He seems like such a good man. I believe the unbelievably perfect things he says to me. He's patient and understanding, and that's exactly what I need him to be. When I think about him, I smile.

It feels so promising, yet I can't bear to make him a single promise. I feel like I'm building a wall around the three of us, a… Continue

"...he's so good to me..." When I read that, I actually screamed. Thinking about it now makes me cringe. You have NO idea. I could tell you so many things that he IS, and good to women would never make that list.

I'm really angry at you (at, not with, because you clearly never considered my feelings). No, I don't know you, but you represent any woman that would knowingly become involved with a man that has a family. Who does that? And adding to my confusion, I wonder what kind of mother would d… Continue