No child left behind...

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Comment by Derrick on March 31, 2009 at 4:20pm

It is sad to see how much anger and pain children hold inside when they feel that their Mommy or Daddy has abandoned them. It is tough to not be angry, ourselves, about the situation. And sometimes it is difficult to tell the little ones that their Mom still loves them very much and will see them or call when she has the chance.
All we can do is make sure the kids do not resent the other parent. Once that happens, the kids start to stop loving them. Once that starts to happen, the child stops loving themselves.
And yes, it would be nice to have a break at some time, have fun and be care-free (just for a weekend). But we are the responsible ones, the ones that the kids rely on for everything in this world. And they love us for it. :)

Comment by Jenn on March 30, 2009 at 5:26pm

he is 5, and his dad hasnt seen him since he was 3! he played head games when we were together, so the fact that he is doing it now, doesnt surprise me at all! I agree with the being overwhelmed, in fact I am very much so right now! but think that co-parenting with him again would be more overwhelming!

Comment by Sheilabear on March 3, 2009 at 11:16pm

Jenn how old is you're son? I am sorry you had to deal with him playing head games with you over such a sensitive issue. I know how much this can hurt! I just cannot conceptualize how anyone can turn there back on there child. And even though we know that "its for the best" that these pretend parents aren't around we still ache for the loss of our children. <3's to Amy to!!

I have reiterated to my ex three things I wanted for him to do for me to agree to joint custody. Number 1. Consistancy and involvement with Malakai or not at all! 2. No smoking in an enclosed area with M. And 3. Take a parenting class,, But I am the selfish bitch! Just like you with you're request for a drug test... Just want what's best for my lil one. At the time I was SOOO overwhelmed and really wanted to co-parent so I could get a break from being a mom. But STILL had to look out for my son with those "conditions." He agreed to all this in a mediation after not seeing son for 5 months. Set up first visit and gave partial custody then 6 days before he was supposed to come visit he called and said he didn't want anything to do with M and he wanted to sign his rights over... More mental torture,later saying "in a few months" I am gonna start to see him and then get this, telling other people I WON"T LET HIM SEE OUR SON!!

It will be two years in June since he has seen him and my son will be two and a half years old.

Comment by Sheilabear on March 3, 2009 at 2:06pm

Hey guys,
it sounds like we will all be be to vent and get support here.. I will write more later when I am not so busy with the little one :)

Comment by Jenn on March 3, 2009 at 1:09pm

My ex once called to yell at me that i didnt call him when our son was hospitalized! "he would have really liked to see his dad when he was sick" is what he told me! like that wouldnt have screwed with his head! my ex has chosen not to be a part of his life because I demanded that he did a drug test! it is pretty sad since he was pushing for "joint custody" and that was all that stood between him and visitation!

Comment by Amy on March 3, 2009 at 1:05pm

my oldest son, his father only came around when they started to garnish his wages, one of those times was during his birthday when he was 4. He is 11 now and still remembers that, holds on to it, and feels so much pain... it makes me so angry, but after over 3 years with no contact I have given up. My poor son hasn't. I am sorry you guys have to go through that disappointment and hurt. For me it has faded over time, but like I said is hard when I see it reflected in my baby's eyes (ok so he is not much of a baby anymore, but always my baby)

Comment by Jenn on March 3, 2009 at 12:22pm

birthdays are always the hardest! I am constantly thinking maybe this time......