Full Custody All The Way

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Comment by WhisperingWinds on September 8, 2009 at 11:20am

To Ms Dee, my ex fought for custody of only one of his kids, my child with autism. Because at the time he knew about SSI and some states order higher payments of support if your hchild is special needs.
3 yrs but I won! One good parent is all a child needs. I posted a story about that the other day a study.
Plenty of 2 parent homes where the kids come out totallly messed up. Look to our presdient for guidance. He was raised with a single mom and a mixed race one. IMO if a parent wants or expect failures based on stereotpes. then it will happen but have better expecations and good things can and do happen.

Comment by brittany on September 8, 2009 at 9:02am

Ms. Dee.....omg. that breaks my heart. I truly don't understand. Uggggghhhh. It should be illegal.

Comment by WhisperingWinds on June 17, 2009 at 6:47pm

My kids are all grown. But my eldest son helped me care for his sibling so i could keep working. One is special needs. Dad never bothered to visit after fighiting for custody of only one. Never showed up for court. My mom helped very rarell. But not public assitance no need for a bf to help out. I managed to buy a house on my own and pay off to cars and save some money for my sons college. Not easy. But it was so worth it. I ended up becoming my own lawyer and won. I have now gotten to know family law in the US and cs laws and how to enforce what they call unenforceable orders even out of the country without the help of a lawyer. mY kids were worht it all.

Comment by Jen on June 6, 2009 at 2:31am

I just joined this site and this group, just wanted to kind of introduce myself, Hi, my name is Jen and I'm a single mom of three and have them 24/7, but Grandma does take them one weekend a month so I don't go completely crazy. My story is a mixture of alot of the stories I have read, so I won't bore yall with details, just suffice it to say that I'm past the bitter part of the breakups, they made their choices and I had to choose the lesser of two evils, and at the end of the day without my exes I wouldn't have my children. At anyrate, I look forward to getting to know yall. Blessings!

Comment by sky wright on June 1, 2009 at 7:59am

Well I met my daughters father at a foster home and we went out for about a year, but than he became abusive and statrted selling drugs. He moved out of state to start a new life and to get on his feet, but after he left I found out I was six weeks pregnant. I thought that he would come back and help me but he didn't so I went through the whole pregnancy by myself.
It was an experiece for me,but it was also emotionally draining for me because I was so young and had so much left to accomplish. but now I'm still accomplishing my goals, but just taking another path to get there.
My little gril is one year old and has only seen her father once. He wants to be involved, but has done nothing to show it. I would like my daughter to have a dad, but not one who is going to be in and out of her life. I just don't think that thats fair for her. Right now I have full custody and he has supervised visitations every other sunday. I would like to keep that way because of his past history.

Comment by brittany on May 21, 2009 at 2:50pm

Since I have no one to take my kids (EVER!!) i joined the Ymca today. For $34 a month, which was given under the financial assistance program they offer, I can work out with 20 hours of free childcare (per month). My 12 year old can go by himself this summer, too, without a parent. I thought that was amazing!

Comment by Paul on May 19, 2009 at 3:08pm

Wow there's a lot of anger in these posts, I used to be there but everyone really needs to get over it. I too have full custody of my 2 boys, their Mom made of life choice of heroin and crack over her Sons. Yes I was angry and if I would have seen this site 3 years ago I'd be just as mean and bitter but time has a way of making things better. And it is.

She is suppose to submit to a drug test and if clean for 2 months she gets weekends and 2 weeks in summer (But has no legal say in their care) but in the 4 years she has been a junkie she has yet to and I doubt she ever will. She is suppose to pay a whopping $220 a month in child support for the 2 boys and I think I have received $500 in 4 years if that.

She may see them for an hour or two once a week if lucky and she never calls them or speaks to them during the week so all in all she is an absent Mother who was more of an egg donor than anything else.

Now, saying all of that I wouldn't change one thing I much prefer this situation to one where you try to get along with your ex or you have an angry relationship with them, that is never good for the kids but people as a species never fail to surprise me on their pettiness. I feel for all kids of divorced parents for the ones who have 2 adults that can't act like it for their sake or in my case one who chooses drugs over them, either way these kids heads are messed up.

The 3 of us are doing good, better than before but they are missing something and I'd lie to say they are not, every kid needs a Mom and Dad but at least my kids know who is here and who is not and I never keep them from seeing their Mom unless she is high and I feel the brightest part of this mess is that their Mom is a walking talking personal anti drug bill board for my kids since they see first hand what drugs do to people.

I have no intentions of every introducing another female into their lives, I am just not interested in dating ever and we have an awesome relationship and that makes all the effort, hard work and sacrifice worth it and if the situation was the exact same for me so would the results

Comment by Michelle on May 19, 2009 at 2:42pm

I have been a full time single parent since June 2007 (my ex took off for Michigan at that time, he's diagnosed with several mental illnesses). The judge made it final in November 2008. The judge did the best he could with what he had to work with. My ex didn't bother to show up for court, his financial statement was 9 months old and his lawyer had no idea of where the man even lived! I have full physical custody of my daughter with joint legal but I have the final say in everything. He has no visitation at this time.

Neither my son (18) or my daughter wants anything to do with their father. My son was living with my ex unil February when we discovered after the first of the year that his father had stolen my son's DVDs and sold them for money telling my son that it was okay that he did it since my son didn't pay rent. Then in February, my son and I discovered that his father (44yo) was leaving his live-in girlfriend (45 yo) for his other girlfriend (24yo) but telling us he was moving into a homeless shelter.

My ex was also very abusive to me verbally, physically, and emotionally and pulled a lot of emotional abuse on my kids.

I receive no child support but I'm okay with that. I would honestly rather do this alone. We are doing just fine the three of us. We are all happy and healthy and we are FINALLY a family, something we didn't have for many, many years before. I wouldn't trade this for anything in the world.

Comment by Singlemomma_CC on April 29, 2009 at 1:18pm

Full custody all the way! Since day one really but I LEGALLY became a single parent in 2004 when I terminated my ex's parental rights....which made me all warm & cozy inside hahahah still does actually!

Comment by JOLENE on April 16, 2009 at 11:32am

Well here I am in the full custody stage in life. When I was married to my ex husband he never took care of the kids. Was always off doing this and that and what ever he needed to be out of the house. When I filed for divorce he sang this great song about how he wanted to be a good father and wanted to have joint custody. Sense I was broke and didn't have the money for a lawyer I listened and agreed to joint custody with also child support tagged onto the divorce degree (best thing I ever did) even though technically he would not have to pay child support sense we have joint custody. We live about 9 blocks away from eachother and on adverage he sees the kids about 8 hours a month. It didn't even take long enough for the ink to dry on the divorce papers for him to start backing out of his agreement of taking the kids 3 nights a week. I would take his worthless ass back to court now to have it change however I don't see the point. I am getting as much child support from his as the state will allow even though we have joint custody (god I still love the judge I had at our court hearing). So now here I am... doing it alone. I don't even fight with him about the fact that he swore under oth that he would be there for his kids 50% of the time. There is no point. I love my monsters more than anything in the world and frankly if he was to just disapear all together that would be great. Is that wrong for me to say??
I have also learned the hard way not to tell the monsters when he is suppose to be picking them up because 9 times out of 10 he does not show up. I purposely make a point not to drive by his house becuase than the kids see that he is home. I just don't understand it. Somedays I would kill for a break, just a little me time but I don't know how he does it... I would die not being with my kidos and he just does not care. He has more than enough time away from work to see them 3 nights a week every week (and still have off a couple days here and there without the kids, his schedule is really strange) but he does not ever take the time to spend with the kids. It has come down to the fact that when he does take the kids they don't want to go with him. They don't know him. As I sit here today he has seen the kids a total of about 3 hours this month so far, and remember... he only lives about a mile from us.

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