Made a big decision today

[WhisperingWinds]

Janer, I am coming to Ont.
I should have done this before, money was one reason fear and all that goes with it, but i spoke to a laywer there and the courts on thurs and the cops. The think i should come there and finish up stuff that was statted there. Had i not got sick last week I may not be doing this. But then reality began to set in. I am sold some stock i had for years, i got for free from a former employer and bough the ticket. It will be cheape for me to go there file the stuff on friday and then he has only 4 days to reply. anything he fights me there after that he has to pay for my ticket to come back and food and board.

I did a lot of soul searching and meditating and praying on this and spoke with famly friends and asked the op of several men.

I have to do this to protect myself and my daughters future.So wish me luck I leave on thurs get in by evening. I drive into Canada from NY then stay all day and leave by friday night. Be home by midnight.

[Janer]

well aren't i shocked to see a post with my name at the top. Too bad you aren't coming to ottawa. i assume you'll be in toronto.

Well i hope your trip is worthwhile and makes this situation progress a little bit for you. I'm glad you are standing up for yourself. Sometimes, as pointless as this process seems, it really comes down to that...taking our power back and making a stand. good luck!

[WhisperingWinds]

i wll be in the to area. halton region. i decided to ask him to pay child support for my daughter since he tried to have access to her, to the americans access is the same is visiitation rights. he then aknowledge a bond with my daughter. she is 24 and disabled. she get support from her bio dad but the courts in canada can and do awre support for step kids even if the bio dad is paying support. he knew that going in. true to his slimey form the lad he is with now had a child who is disabled. she had two taken away and the youngest she just gave up for him. he tried to get me to do that to my daughter when she was 18 i told his family that and he denied it so now it has happened. so i ws shocked when he asked for access to my daughter. in ont he could have prevented me from moving anywhere i wanted. my first ex did that to me for a time. stupid judge told me i was not to leave the state unless i told the courts. i kid you not.

[WhisperingWinds]

off topic. karma was good to me today. I found that i may be able to file charges agains the stbc for cutting the phone taking the car keys from me while i was in Ont. then an old dear friend i lost contact with contacted me. i love this women. she is my hero. she had 4 kids with autism. then found her husband had it. big hearted woman. then, a cousin my kids had not seen in 20 yrs her dad found me. i had not beein the phone book in 20 yrs, then i thought she had been adopted she was but she made contact with her dad who wanted to know if her mom was still alive. she may be dead. but i said she had two living cousins she can meet. we last saw her as a new born baby. ihave given up ever finding this girl. i am soooo excited!

my kids had not had much contact with thier dad side in years. now they will. but i now know the other reason the stbx is not eager to get in court. a new law that would make him pay more in alimony if he was caught lying about me. janer, i love the family law act of Ont.

[WhisperingWinds]

Janer, I am thrilled. All the brick walls i ran into legal wise when i was there in Ont fell like dominoes today. I am shocked. I got, count em, 3 lawyers to talk to me at lenght and not to cost me an arm and a leg. They all told me the same thing and they are going to finally allow me to file, not to late, domestic violence charges!! Not only that but before I left i tried to get the records, not easy with an autistic child and no car, and they wanted a lot of money. Not anymore. They are making arrangement for me to meet with the police thurs. to get the records ready for court. That will sve me time and money and they can then go directly to the courts. I have to file a summons on friday. the courts will get hte info with nothing obliterated. Then they made arrangement for me to stay at a local womens shelter, more like a house, whre i stayed before sadly. That place will get my records when I was there for me together and I submit them to the police and courts. New rules new laws and the stuff I ran inot before is gone
.

I am shocked just utterly shockesd because I had so many hills to climb and battle last time. Today all these calls came rolling in with offers to help. I am in awe and humbled. I just prayed and prayed and had others praying for this. they told me i have 80 pr chance of getting support fro him there for even my daughter!!

i had just a crappy week last wee and now this made up for al since friday.

Karma is at work.

[Eduard]

Hi Winds.
סעי לשלום ותחזרי בשלום.
It's short Hebrew "Way Blassing". Go with peace, and come back in peace".

All the best.
Eduard.

[WhisperingWinds]

Thank you. It is funny you said this, as today I was simply gong to send the word peace along with the next set of legal documents he will get in canada with the proces server.