Help am I waisting my time????????????????

[Leighan]

So I have finaly started dating after five years. Yes I said five years. I know I might sound a little crazy but I really do like him. I never have liked many guys in my past. Not even my childs donor. And the guys I have been into, this man is off the scales.We get along great. In fact we click really well. Problem though!!!!! His ex girlfriend who dumped him, is calling. I know this cause he tells me, He is more than honest which I can so apprieciate! Never experianced honesty before. haha Anyways so his ex is calling him asking to hang out. SO yea, she figured she had a good guy and now she wants him back. The thing is he is answering her calls and and texts and is saying I gave you a chance etc. I am with him when he is not working and there when he calls. Obviously he still has something for his x. Thats natrual being that he is not the one who broke it off. I understand that.I told him as a friend that I don't know what she wants other thatn him back. That he can move back or move ahead.I don't know where she is coming from. I can see he is a great guy and has a lot to offer. On the other hand he is coming to my families thanksgiving and that says something,RIGHT? I guess what I am asking is "IS HE WASTING MY TIME"?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? This is really driving me nuts. I never have been like this before. I have always been the girlt walk away because I do have alot to offer. This man does too and I don't want to let him slip through the cracks. Sigh............

[Travis]

Their may be a lot under the surface that we don't know. but, for him to move on, he needs to stop communicating with her, it will always leave the door open for him to go back. Especially if he is saying things like "...I gave you a chance..." They are still talking about the relationship.

Having him go to your families event, could be a good thing, but you two need to talk, and have a good serious conversation about where he stands with her, and what he wants with you. And maybe talk about how his communication with his ex is affecting you, and possibly have that end. If he is wanting to be with you, he will address the things that are not making you happy, as what you feel and think are valid.

[WhisperingWinds]

travis your first line is soooo true. my extobe did this all the time and then accussed me of having unfinished biz with otthers. so when he went back to an ex i was not surprised. hell, he was digging info about his ex wife years aftt they split. he wanted to know if she was remarried, what her name was on in property. if a mate wants you to go to family events but then will not go with you that is big red flag. this stbx did that. he made me to go to family function then when my mom died he refused to co me to the funeral. that was the beginning of the end.
i had ex gf of his caling the house. calling his work. he put them a priority over me. when i left he got mad then said he need them to not be lonely. never mind i was when i moved to cnd. if he is not loyal now he never will be. he is not commited to you.
travis is wise.