Top Single Parent Dating Advice Questions

[Morgan Siler]

Okay...I'm soliciting for more replies! Thanks for your help and sharing....

What is your number one question is when it comes to dating as a single parent?

As the editor of the soon-to-be launched Single Parent Magazine is my exciting job to round up the top Q's and then get them answered for you! We are excited to announce MsSingleMama as the mag's dating go-to gal for tips/advice-- Stay tuned for Sept/Oct!

In the mean time, we can't wait to hear from you and hear what's on your mind...

Thanks for sharing your top dating questions...we'll do our very best to get them answered!

[Ms. Single Mama]

That's SO exciting Morgan. I'm can't wait to get to work...

[J-Fo]

Ooh, I have a very timely question - Assuming you've introduced your significant other to your kid(s)...what do you do if they don't bond with the kid(s) right away? How long should you allow for that relationship to unfold (or not unfold)? And how much involvement should you have in the effort?

Grrrr, I hate having to ask this question.

[Ms. Single Mama]

J-Fo ... that's SO hard. I read your e-mail earlier just haven't had time to respond. This is such a tough one. (So, no you're not crazy).

It sounds like two years is enough for a bond to form, especially since yours is so young. I think you're doing the right thing by taking some space ... Maybe they'll miss each other? Or better yet - maybe you'll find you don't miss him at all?

I have yet to have a serious relationship since becoming a single mommy but I don't know if I could do it if the guy wasn't totally in love with my kid too.

Good luck hon!

[Sabrina]

That's my main question too! What if they never warm up to each other? Do you end it? Do you try to find some way to make it work?

I would go on a blind date if I trusted the matchmaker!

[Morgan Siler]

I have a Question =)

How many single parents would allow themselves to be set up on a blind date if it was a fellow single mom or single dad doing the matchmaking?

Ever been on one yourself, Alaina?

[Mary Mary]

As a child of two parents that have been maried for over 35 years, I have NO idea what it is like to be raised by a single parent. A lot of what I do as a parent comes from my parents and what I remember making me feel secure, safe, happy, and confident (and what didn't). But, many times I question what I am doing when it comes to parenting that is specific to single parents - i.e. dating, managing a social life. When is it appropriate to introduce someone (whether boyfriend or male friend) to your child? How do you introduce them? Etc.... Thanks Alaina!
PS. I would go on a blind date IF I trusted the matchmaker... :)

[Cyrus Haskell]

I would absolutely go on a blind date if it was set up by one of my friends. They know me pretty well and probably know more what I need right now than I do.

[Ms. Single Mama]

Oh yes. Crashed and burned on every blind date. Actually made me realize that my friends (at the time) had no idea who I was ... made me sad. The odds of actually having chemistry with a stranger are slim. Would much rather meet them in person first ... and then talk on the phone b/f committing to a date. Takes too much time to get to the date in the first place, you know?

[Janet]

I have always been open to blind dates however, my bunko friend has been wanting to set me up with a guy she works for a long time. So last night, after a few glasses of red wine, at bunko, me and this guy decide to text a pic of each other just for curiosity....Well, lets just say.... the dude was sooooooooo not my type. We passed the picture around and everyone was in agreement that he was not my type except of course the girl that wanted set us up. So long story short, I am going to put blind dating on the back burner for now.....anyhoo, my take today! :) Also, I am not trying to say he wasn't attractive, he just wasn't my type and I am very glad we decided to swap pictures before the actual set up. Now...how do I get out of this????

[JustPeachy]

For me, I have to mention it -- because being a parent is a basic fundamental of my life.

I've had a couple of potential relationships turn stay at the friendship/business friend level because the man wasn't comfortable with going forward knowing I was a single mom. I don't hold it against anyone -- people have different needs and these guys were the "hop on a plane from work & fly to Vegas" kind of boys.

I'm pretty confident that when the time's right I'll either find a single dad or a single guy who "gets it".

[Janet]

I agree with you. My son is part of the package and that's just the way it is. If a guy can't handle that, it's better to know from the beginning. Otherwise you are wasting your time.

[Cyrus Haskell]

Absolutely. I mention that I'm a single parent right away. If someone can't accept that part of who I am, game over. I don't have time to waste with someone who can't accept me for me.